12 Things to Do With Your Submissive – Even if They’re Far Away
Pretty often I see people ask for ideas of things they could do with their submissive, and usually most of the responses […]
Slave or Submissive?
“There are two kinds of people in this world: Those who believe there are two kinds of people in this world and […]
Reality Check
I once had a partner who I loved and whose happiness was super important to me. As her lover and her top […]
Consensualy Masterful
There’s this seeming paradox in what’s expected of those of us who aspire to dominate. On the one hand, we’re supposed to […]
Your Inability to Submit is Nothing to Brag About
“I’m 100% dominant.” “I don’t have a submissive bone in my body.” “I couldn’t be submissive if I tried.” It’s the favorite […]
Mentor Someone
I’m always hearing that the world of kink doesn’t have enough mentoring, or that we used to have mentors but we’re losing […]
Topping From the Bottom is too A Real Thing
I just read another essay arguing that topping from the bottom doesn’t really exist—that the phrase is just a way that people […]
The One Most Important Thing For Having Smoking Hot Scenes
There are so many things to learn in order to create hot BDSM scenes. There’s technique with ropes or paddles or knives […]
Submissive Skills: The Ceiling and The Floor
We domly types often like to think the way D/s works is that we tell you exactly what to do and you […]
Can “No-Limits” Be Real?
Hi! You’ve been linked to this essay because the kinky forum you came from has been derailed by an argument over whether […]